Passover Hospitality

I have always loved to invite new faces to our home Passover Seder. This included non Jewish friends or new acquaintances I met in the course of daily life.  I practiced this hospitality for two reasons. I found that the Seder caused astonishment among my guests, since there was nothing comparable to it in their religious traditions. The second reason flowed out of the first. My non-Jewish guests constantly asked questions because everything is so new to them.
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This curiosity engaged me and the Jews around the table in doing ‘hagadah’-telling the story. Telling the story is a central mitzvah of the Seder. Simply put, our guests can inspire us to fulfill the Mitzvah of Passover.
My vision for Panim Hadashot-New Faces is inspired by these encounters flowing out of hospitality. Guests bring a new set of eyes to the rituals we do repeatedly. The new encounter opens doors for guests, but reopens doors for the host. I see the Sedarim of Shabbat, the ritual meals of Friday night, Shabbat lunch, and Havdallah like the Seder. The ritual order and variations of familial and communal custom should arouse curiosity in guests, and enable us to engage in self reflection. We can find new in the old and old in the new.
In the Buddhist tradition there is a notion of Beginner’s Mind which I understand to mean looking at familiar things in a new way. Hospitality helps us to go back to beginner’s mind and dig deeper for the meaning of familiar things.
The great annual recurrence of Passover is nearly upon us. Take the opportunity this season to invite non-Jewish guests to your Seder, or simply some folks you have recently met to your Seder, or bring them to our Panim Hadashot Seder on March 30th. Find joy in their astonishment and wisdom in their questions.
Shalom, Rabbi Dov Gartenberg
Convener and Director of Panim Hadashot-New Faces

January 2018 at Panim Hadashot

To Friends of Panim Hadashot-New Faces,
I wish you a happy secular new year. We are grateful for the support Panim Hadashot received in response to the year end appeal. The support of our growing community is gratifying and exciting.

January 2018 Update

  • Host a Shabbat in your home with the Heart of Shabbat Ensemble:  We invite you to become a Shabbat host through our Shabbat Hospitality Partnership Program.   Learn more HERE and reserve a date to experience the joy of Shabbat with your friends, family, and new faces.
  • New Panim Hadashot Singing Circle in collaboration with the Stroum JCC.  Click Here for details and Signup Info.  We are thrilled to introduce my coleader, Michael Seidel, who bring his considerable community singing skills.
  • You will love our Musical Shabbat Table on January 19th. We bring the joy back into Shabbat by doing a big “Shabbatluck” and the participatory music of the Heart of Shabbat Ensemble and the storytelling of Rabbi Dov Gartenberg.  This is free, child friendly, and a wonderful way to share Shabbat with others.  Details and RSVP HERE
  • Go to Limmud Seattle:   Motzai Shabbat 1/13 to Sunday evening, 1/14.  LINK to Register.  The Heart of Shabbat Ensemble will be co-leading the Havdallah on Saturday night and will be participating in the closing ceremony on Sunday evening. Rabbi Dov is teaching along with dozens of other wonderful teachers and topics.
  • Participatory Musical Shabbat Morning Minyan: Save the Date:  March 10th at our site in Greenwood, 115 N 85th St. Seattle, 98103. Contact Rabbi Dov at dov or text 206 739-9924  if you would like to read Torah or volunteer to help with organizing our first Shabbat morning minyan.

A lot is going on. We invite you to participate and experience the hospitality of Panim Hadashot.


Rabbi Dov Gartenberg

Convener and Director of Panim Hadashot.



The racism and the anti-Semitism of the white nationalists marchers in Charlottesville must be loudly condemned and marginalized.  The car ramming must be designated as a terrorist attack just like similar events perpetrated by ISIS terrorists.  The President has lost credibility with his silence. We must look to other leaders to speak with moral clarity.

Instead of repeating what so many have said over the past day, I am sharing the best piece I read about the terrible events in the Charlottesville.  It comes from a Slate writer who lives in the community. She speaks for me and I hope everyone who reads this.



Why This Rabbi Went to the March for Science on Shabbat

Bloggers note:  I wrote this prior to going to the March for Science on April 22, 2017.  While the march is over, I believe the teaching here remains relevant in helping  to understand the relationship of Judaism to science and its deeper implications for the era of fake facts and willful ignorance that we seem to be entering.

Why I am Going to the March for Science and You Should Too

Rabbi Dov Gartenberg

Convener and Director of Panim Hadashot-New Faces

Friday, April 21, 2017

I am joining the March for Science tomorrow on my Sabbath day. Why am I going to this march instead of attending Shabbat morning services?

I am going as a human being who feels strongly that this march is the best expression of the value of Earth Day and the call to arms for the looming long-term danger of climate change.

I am going as an American citizen deeply alarmed about the intentional undermining of the role of scientific research and evidence in so many fields by the new administration.

I am going as a Jew because of the repudiation and manipulation of reality by our president and many of his enablers is an affront to Jewish teachings on wisdom and honesty. See Pirkei Avot, Ethics of the Sages, Chapter 5, Mishnah 7 “There are seven things that characterize a golem (I will leave this Hebrew word untranslated).  , and seven that characterize a Hacham  (a wise person).

I am going as a rabbi because I believe that the deep and critical study of nature is a precondition for the study of Torah.  In this view, I follow my teacher, Maimonides, the great Jewish philosopher and physician of the 12th century.  Maimonides  “allowed the authority of Jewish revelation (Torah)  to be severely constricted and even undermined in those areas where recent knowledge about the natural world appeared to challenge the wisdom of the rabbis (of the Talmud, 700-1200 years prior to Maimonides).”

Maimonides’ wrote in his classic work, The Guide for the Perplexed,

“Do not ask of me to show that everything they [the rabbis] have said concerning astronomical matters conforms to the way things really are. For at that time mathematics was imperfect. They did not speak about this as transmitters of dicta of the prophets, but rather because in those times they were sages of knowledge in these fields or because they had heard these dicta from the sages of knowledge who lived in those times.” LINK

A rabbi in our time also must also listen to the dicta from sages of knowledge who live in our time. Going beyond Maimonides we must admit that mathematics and other fields of science are never perfect and are evolving as our knowledge increases.  Maimonides lived before the development of modern scientific method, but I am certain his view would have embraced modern scientific method and would have sought its findings in all fields.

Sages of knowledge†in our day test their scientific theories among their peers and their findings are public and subject to experimental challenge  Denial of the efficacy of this method and of the findings it reveals, is one of the most invidious trends in our time now egged on by irresponsible government officials.

This denial and dismissal of the scientific knowledge must be opposed and challenged.

Why am I making an exception to my Shabbat practice of attending morning services and traveling to participate in the march?  I am following Heschel’s example of praying with my feet.  I also understand the Jewish Sabbath as a Zecher Lemaaseh Bereishit-a memorial to the act of creation.  By marching I am intentionally fulfilling one of the purposes of the Sabbath day.

When people with immense power endanger the natural world and undermine the habitability of the world we are dependent on, then it is a Kum V’aseh (Stand Up and Act) moment.  That is why I think that Jews who love the Sabbath should join me in attending the march.  500 marches are occurring not only in the US, but around the world. Let us Sing a Song of Shabbat and Sing a Song for the entire world.


Shabbat Shalom




An Elul Letter from Rabbi Dov Gartenberg on Mental Illness and the Seattle Jewish Community

Monday, August 24, 2015/ 9 Elul, 5775

Dear friends,

During the upcoming Days of Awe we will chant the haunting prayer, Unetaneh Tokef. The famous dyads of this prayer reveal the existential anxieties of our ancestors. I am writing to you about three of the dyads which have absorbed my attention during my adult life.

Who will be at peace and who will be troubled? מי ינוח ומי ינוע

Who will be serene and who will be disturbed? מי ישקיט ומי יטרף

Who will be tranquil and who will be tormented? ומי ישלו ומי יתיסר

These dyads focus on an ancient fear- the fear of what we today call mental illness. There was no word for mental illness in antiquity. Like the fear of death, the fear of falling sick to mental anguish and suffering was part of their reality, and continues to be part of ours. While we know much more about mental illness than our ancestors, we have, like them, found no cures for the myriad ways it manifests in ourselves or in the people we love.

Before I moved back to Seattle in April 2015, I served as the Executive Director of an affiliate of the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) in Juneau, Alaska. During my time there I learned and taught NAMI’s signature peer education courses for family members who are caring for a loved one with mental illness. I also brought to the community NAMI’s peer support and education courses for persons living with mental illness. Most important, I was able to mine my personal experience as a parent of a child with mental illness to become an advocate for people and family enduring the great challenges of living with it.

In moving back to Seattle I want to continue to advocate, support and educate persons and families living with mental illness as a rabbi in the Jewish community. Under the rubric of Panim Hadashot, the Jewish organization I have reestablished, I am working to bring NAMI’s outstanding peer support and education programs to the attention of the Seattle Jewish community. I am meeting with the leadership of Jewish Family Service and NAMI to foster greater collaboration in bringing forward the peer-led programs that NAMI offers.

One of NAMI’s signature programs is Family to Family, a course designed for family members who care for a loved one living with a mental illness such as depression, Bipolar Disorder, anxiety disorders, and Schizophrenia to organize and teach a NAMI. I am working with the Seattle affiliate of NAMI to modify and teach this course to include unique Jewish cultural issues that can arise with Jewish families dealing with mental illness. I will be teaching this course not as a rabbi, but as a peer. A peer in this case is a person who has life experience caring for a family member.

The Family to Family Course has been scheduled to run on Mondays and Wednesday evenings from November 9 to December 16, 2015. It is for any family members or caregivers caring for a loved one living with mental illness. The course is currently offered under the rubric of NAMI of Greater Seattle and Panim Hadashot, my recently reestablished Jewish organization. The course will meet in the Wedgwood neighborhood of Seattle. The course is free, but registration will be limited to twenty persons. You will be able to find information on the course by September 1st at or at

I am also working to hold in Seattle a gathering focused on Judaism and Mental Illness. The gathering would be modeled on a conference that took place in New York City in 2014 organized by the Jewish institute of Drisha.

I wanted to make you aware of these efforts and invite you to join me either as a participant or as a collaborator. I also hope that over time we will be able to train a cadre of persons in the Jewish community who can help others on this journey by becoming NAMI trained peer teachers or support group facilitators. Please feel free to contact me if you are interested at

I remember many years ago when my son was hospitalized in one of the more severe depressive episodes. He was so sick and in such pain that I hardly recognized him. As I fell to the depths of despair, one of the aides saw the distress on my face and took me aside. He told me, “It will not always be like this. He will find a way out of this.” I will always remember those words of hope and solace. Over time they were prophetic.

I am calling on inspired persons in our community to provide hope, support, and encouragement for those we know who face this enormous challenge. As it says at the end of ‘Unetaneh Tokef’, “Teshuvah, tefilah, and tzedaka maavirin et roa hagezera”. I translate this beloved prayer to mean “by turning toward, by advocating, and by generous righteous and caring acts we diminish the severity of the decree.” We have the power to make a difference and bring hope to those who live with mental illness.

Shanah Tovah v’tikateivu,

Rabbi Dov Gartenberg

Panim Hadashot

The Inspiration of a New Face

In 2004 I established a new Jewish non-profit in Seattle called Panim Hadashot. In Hebrew, Panim Hadashot, means either ‘new face’ or ‘new faces’. The expression is associated with an ancient Jewish wedding practice that is still preserved to this day in some communities. The Jewish wedding ceremony culminates in the Seven Blessings (Sheva Berachot) a medley of blessings rich with past and future meaning. It is sung to the couple under the wedding canopy (Huppah) by the officiant or family members. In ancient times, it was an ideal to repeat the Sheva Berachot during the week following the wedding at a daily festive meal in honor newly married couple (honeymoons didn’t come until later). The name for these celebrations became “Sheva Berachot”.

However, a Sheva Berachot celebration could only take place if there was at least one new face present who was not a guest at the original ceremony. These new guests are called Panim Hadashot. The intention of this practice seems to be the intentional spreading of joyfulness and celebration beyond the original circle of family and friends to others in the community.

The idea behind the creation of Panim Hadashot was to apply the spirit of hospitality and inclusiveness embedded in this beautiful practice to the new realities modern Jewish life. Panim Hadashot was established as a Jewish outreach and educational organization which focused on sharing the Jewish Sabbath and Festival home hospitality traditions. Panim Hadashot also offered Torah study that was inclusive, rich in content, and spiritually relevant to people’s lives. I was in a sense a Sabbath coach, helping people to develop an enriching and inclusive Sabbath home hospitality practice.

Since leaving Seattle in 2007, Panim Hadashot continued to function in different formats. In Southern California I applied the approach of Panim Hadashot to develop a program promoting the development of a Shabbat table culture in a congregation that had little Shabbat celebration or hospitality beyond the synagogue walls. We trained leading synagogue householders to build up their Shabbat home practices and to share their tables regularly with other congregants and guests. In 2011, Joanne and I brought Panim Hadashot to Juneau, Alaska where our home became a center for Shabbat celebration and Torah study. In this small, assimilated Jewish community we sought to keep the spirit of Shabbat alive and to reconnect Jews to its beauty.

When we decided to return to Seattle we worked on a new vision of Panim Hadashot built on the lessons learned from the ten years of experience teaching and modeling our Sabbath hospitality practice. Our vision was inspired by a variation of the ancient practice of Panim Hadashot, inviting new faces to celebrate with the newly married. The Talmud makes an exception to the requirement of a bringing a “new face” to a
Sheva Berachot celebration that takes place on Shabbat. Shabbat herself is considered by the tradition to be the New Face. This variant of the ancient Jewish wedding practice inspired a metaphor for the Sabbath that is captured in a poem by the great Spanish poet, Yehuda Halevy (1075 – 1141).

מה נעמה לי עת בין השמשות לראות פני שבת פנים חדשות ר יהודה הלוי
How lovely is the twilight to be able to gaze on the Sabbath, a New Face.
R. Yehudah Halevy, b 1075

Inspired by this poem and the many references in later Jewish literature to the Sabbath as Panim Hadashot, we found expression for a basic insight about the role of the Shabbat in our lives. Each Shabbat for us is a New Face, a new opportunity for connection between ourselves and other, between ourselves and God. The onset of every Sabbath is the opportunity for the renewal of love, the renewal of awareness, the renewal of purpose.

It is the embrace of this metaphor of Sabbath as a New Face that lead us to bring Panim Hadashot back to Seattle with an expanded vision and program. In the next blog entry, I will share this expanded vision and the approach to Jewish community that emerges from it.

Rabbi Dov Gartenberg